That's a tall order you are asking of yourself which wouldn't be good for you anyway. Anything more than 2 lbs lost each week quickly comes back on as soon as you get off the diet, which defeats what you are trying to do.
Nevertheless, it is a month between now and then, so you should be able to lose up to 10 lbs more easily on the following steps:
1. Drink between 5 and 8 glasses of water across each day to keep your body hydrated.
2. Have three main SMALL meals plus two small snacks (5 times daily and no more). A snack could be a fruit, couple of biscuits or anything very low in calories in between the meals. It's the regularity and frequency of your eating that influences your metabolic rate.
3. Eat your biggest meal at breakfast, a good lunch and a very light dinner (salads etc) and don't eat after 7 pm. That gives your body time to digest it before you go to bed.
4. Do some easy exercises (especially brisk walking and/or aerobics) at least 5 times each week lasting at least 20 minutes each time - and walking your dog briskly would definitely help.
5. THINK slim daily. Imagine yourself at the weight you want by July and keep that image at the forefront of your mind as you go through each day.
The main thing is that if you dramatically reduce your intake of sweets and fatty foods, eat regularly to avoid food cravings and drink a lot, you should definitely lose weight over the month and also develop a healthy regime to keep losing or maintaining it.
Because of my diabetes I am on a similar diet every day of my life which I follow very loosely, and when I am in the mood. Sometimes I stay static in weight, sometimes I lose it, but the interesting thing is that I no longer put on weight as I used to do! My weight has stabilised to a trim size for the past 10 years.
The main thing to remember is that it is not easy, and will need lots of determination, especially at the beginning when nothing seems to be happening (because weight is slow to shift), in order to get the results.
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Q. People sleep for more than 20 years (one third) of their life time. Such a terrible waste of time when life is short. I would like to enjoy every second of my life, staying awake and knowing things gives me pleasure. Sleeping gives me a guilty consciousness of losing out something. There were sages and yogis who slept for only 2 hours a day. Why can't we be awake all the time?
A. How can sleep be a 'terrible waste of time' if it is a natural thing to do and the body needs it? Would you believe it that the most important part of your life is sleeping, meditating, or periods of calm and quiet! This is because sleeping serves a crucial function for us: It keeps us alive!!
Our body is like a finely tuned machine which needs to repair itself at some point during each day. The only time it can do that is when we are not using it for anything, i:e when we are asleep and our autonomic system takes over. That is why medical experts recommend at least 7-8 hours sleep each day and why we also feel refreshed when we have had a good sleep. It means we have recovered and are ready to start a new day.
Worse still, medical research has found that older people who get less that 6 hours sleep each day are prone to die earlier than others. It seems that regardless of what is happening to other species on earth, we are programmed to sleep. Yogis who might sleep for just two hours each day are also meditating for long periods which serves the same function. Hence why they can do it without much ill effects.
There is nothing 'short' about our lives because 75 years (average in the UK) is a long time. It is our mindset and perspective that makes life seem either short or long. We have as much time as we need, on average. It's what we actually do with that time, and how we spend it, that makes it seem inadequate. If you did not sleep continuously, you would be dead within a few months as you would not be able to cope. You would be too tired and drained and your immune system would begin to collapse. You would feel stressed and then become prone to illnesses. So losing too much sleep would then rob you of the very life you seek!
Sleeping is not a waste of time at all. In fact, by sleeping as much as you can, you are actually lengthening your life even more and sharpening up your resources for a better quality of life too!!
Sleep is essential to the healthy functioning of our bodies. No one knows exactly what it’s main purpose is but it is certainly involved in general body repair and restoration. After a hard day’s activity, sleep seems crucial for rejuvenating our bodies for the next day. Without adequate amounts of sleep, we tend to feel irritable, tired and listless. Thus sleep is very good for our health, especially if we can manage eight hours, on average.
In fact, what many people do not often realise is that a lack of sleep—especially on a regular basis—is associated with long-term health consequences, not just diabetes, especially high blood pressure, and heart disease. These conditions, in turn, may lead to a shortened life expectancy.
Scientists have recently discovered that people who sleep less than six hours each night appear to have a higher risk of developing’ impaired fasting glucose’ — a condition that can precede type 2 diabetes (when the body makes in too much insulin but isn’t able to use it efficiently, thus becoming insulin resistant). Population studies have shown that diabetes rates rise as sleep declines. While the available data provide compelling reasons to get eight hours of quality sleep every night, they couldn’t explain how diabetes might be influenced by sleep. Yet, tests repeatedly proved that people who slept less than six hours, on average were more prone to having type 2 diabetes.
So how are the two factors connected?
Human bodies have a clock, an internal rhythm that dictates when we fall asleep and when we get up. They are the ‘molecular timekeepers, made and degraded every 24 hours’, that set this daily cycle. When any part of this ticking clock is faulty, sleep schedules gradually change. Not only that, it seems our bodily rhythms, including the clock that sets human sleep cycles, is ‘squarely in the blood sugar business’. Sleep-deprived subjects, seem to crave starchy, sweet foods, they exhibit insulin resistance and do not regulate their blood sugar well. These tend to lead to obesity which also predisposes diabetes in a vicious circle.
Investigations by three international teams of researchers have suggested that rising diabetes and falling sleep are linked by a protein that senses the ‘sleep-inducing hormone melatonin’. Melatonin, the regulator of the body’s sleep clock, is closely linked to increased glucose levels and diabetes. Best known for its sleep-inducing properties, melatonin levels in the body are tied to daylight: when the lights go down, melatonin levels rise and drowsiness soon follows. When daylight occurs, the level drops and we no longer feel sleepy.
The scientific experiments also revealed how the melatonin directly interact with insulin-producing cells. The melatonin ‘receptor’ was thought to be expressed in the brain — where the body’s master clock resides. When scientists added melatonin to human beta-cells in the lab, insulin production went down. It seems that the presence of the melatonin ‘receptor’ on the insulin-secreting cells makes it more likely that it is directly controlling the output of insulin. The connection between the melatonin and insulin makes perfect sense, because in the middle of the night, when melatonin levels are high, the need for insulin should be much lower.
Though the researchers are not yet sure how melatonin levels are different in sleep-deprived people, compared to those with good levels of sleep, another study in 2008 found that people who get less than five hours of sleep a night were significantly more likely to have type 2 diabetes. “Healthy young adults who were prevented from entering deep sleep for just three nights couldn’t properly regulate blood sugar levels.” What was even more surprising, “the subjects became more resistant to insulin during the study, eventually reaching the levels of insulin sensitivity that resemble the insulin resistance of diabetic people.”
Other studies have also confirmed that people who slept for five hours or less on average are more likely to become overweight or obese than those who got more sleep because the less sleep one gets is the more one tends to eat foods that are higher in carbohydrates and sugar - which means consuming even more calories!
Q. I would say that my "girls" are of average size. Not huge, not tiny. I can't typically run around town without a bra, but every so often, if I have on the right style and color shirt, I can get away with it and people don't notice. And, if I had my way, let me tell you, the girls would be free all the time. Ladies, what about you? Can you get away with going braless every so often or all the time? Is it a size thing or just a comfort thing if you do? Men, do you like the "free" look on women or do you prefer the supported look?
A. I have great boobs so I don't always wear a bra. But even if I didn't, it is about self love, not letting the expectations of others dictate how I feel about myself. No woman was born into a bra. Like every other item of clothing, it is up to us to select what we want to wear and when. As a rule, I don't wear a bra at home. However, I tend to wear one when I go out. It means I have the best of both worlds: pleasing myself and being 'decent' for others who might see me. However, there have been occasions when I have also been bra-less outside too, especially in the summer. So it all depends on my mood, I guess.
My rule of thumb is that I dress to please me, not anyone else, because then I will be most comfortable. After all, I don't tell men what to wear. Why should they tell me how to dress? In fact, I was talking to a guy the other day whom I hadn't met. The conversation was going well until he asked me if I wore stilletto heels!
Now, I draw the line firmly at being a man's fantasy because they are not really appreciating me as a person, just a fantasy in their head. I sweetly told him that if he liked stilletto heels that much he should go out and buy them for himself and wear them to see what they feel like. And promptly put the phone down. I do wear high heels when I am ready, but if all he wanted were a pair of legs attached to a body, he could find them elsewhere!
Be comfortable whatever you wish to do, whether with a bra or not. That's the best way to be and those who really like you will appreciate you for it. So just be free when you want, it is your life! :o)
Q. I cannot afford to get pregnant -- I am still studying, my parents would be so angry. If I couldn't have an abortion, I would be a single mom, because the guy was just a FWB, and he doesn't care. A small part of me looked forward to getting a positive test and telling him that it was positive (to teach him a lesson and kind of get back at him for my feelings hurt), and that same part of me looked forward to dropping the bomb on my psychologist that I was pregnant. So I had mixed feelings when I bought the pregnancy test. When the test came up negative, I heaved a sigh of relief, but also sat there staring at it, just feeling disappointed. How could I WANT to fall pregnant deep down inside? (That's insane...)
A. There is nothing 'insane' about wanting to fall pregnant. As a woman, that's the most natural thing in the world, to have a child. That's the only way our species can survive! So most women have that natural instinct to reproduce.
You are having mixed emotions perhaps because, on the one hand, you are emotionally ready to have a child, and perhaps long for one, but recognise that the circumstances, both physical and financial, are perhaps not ideal to conceive. You lack the confidence to make the right decision for yourself at this time. You don't mention your age, but the fact that you are studying, and your parents would object, could also be part of the reason why the time doesn't seem right for you.
You also seem to have some resentment issues. One does NOT have a baby to see reactions, to drop bombshells or as revenge on anyone. Those are the worst reasons to conceive, and they show your immaturity, especially when you also mention abortion in the same breath! A child is a human being with the potential of a great life ahead, not a toy or pawn to be used to get back at others. You are the only person who would suffer, and that poor baby too, in such circumstances.
There is never a perfect time to have a child. Things will always be both good and bad at any time. But it sounds as though you are at a crossroads in your life and not sure what to do, OR you perhaps long for a baby for the wrong reasons (like wanting someone to love who would love you back unconditionally and would help you to feel adult and independent, or as revenge on the guy you mentioned). Hence your mixed feelings.
If you feel disappointed that the test is negative, perhaps you need to face up to the emotional pull you have for a child and why it would matter to you to have one, especially at this time when you are studying. Something is obviously missing from your life right now, emotionally, and perhaps that would need to be addressed first before you think of having a baby. No baby would resolve how you are feeling inside of you, especially if you yourself feel neglected and undervalued. Understanding yourself first would help you to understand your disappointment and your relief.
Perhaps this quiz might help you sort your thoughts out.
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